Update for Evening of Feb 1st
7:32 PMWell, this has all just been so fast. Time just seems to speed by here at the hospital. My siblings and I got up here around 2, and the others just barely left to go home with my dad- I will stay the night here with my mom.
My mind just seems to be in a jumbled mess so excuse me if this seems to be disorganized.
Well, here is what is going on.
Parker's staph infection is very serious. It is what is keeping him from improving. The doctors are flooding him with antibiotics to cure his other ailments but the infection is preventing them from working.
This is how the doctors think this whole fiasco happened. We know that the main issue here was the staff infection, but this was aggravated by the flu. Previously his body had been doing it's job in fighting off the staph infection, until the flu was added to the mix. His immune system was fighting a war against the virus of the flu, and the bacteria of the staph infection. With all of this strain, his body was eventually losing to the bacteria of the staff infection and he now went into Sepsis. Sepsis is the body's severe reaction to bacteria and other germs and results in an extreme inflammatory response. The thought is also that the linings of the walls in Parker's veins became weakened through all of this stress. There are natural and good bacteria that work for you inside of you digestive system for example, but they are meant to stay there. If not, then it causes havoc. What they think happened in Parker's case is that the veins became penetrable, and the bacteria went into the bloodstream, and it then went throughout his entire body, which explains all of the other issues he has.
Parker is has been sedated and does not know what is going on with him. The only thing that is keeping him alive is the lung and heart bypass. He cannot breathe on his own, and the only reason he is somewhat 'here' with us is these machines.
The lung and heart bypass are doing- you guessed it- the normal job of the lungs and heart, while there is a sort of air compressor that is keeping the tissue of the lungs alive. The heart is pumping, but it's deteriorating. With how the lung and heart bypass is works, it goes through a femoral artery in his upper leg, and then goes up and does it's business to keep him alive. However since he is so big, his lower leg is not getting enough blood. Earlier we were worried that there was a clot, or that there was an infection in the lower leg, but for now it seems to be getting just enough blood to keep the tissue alive, but we will know more tomorrow. The best case scenario for his leg is that he will be just fine, but if it is causing a hindrance in his recovery, the doctors may have to amputate just below the knee.
The main thing is that Parker's life is on the line. Since he is not showing any improvement, it begs the question whether or not he will ever show improvement. Right now, the view is bleak. He is only being kept alive by these machines, and he is being kept sedated. What type of life is that for him? Parker needs to improve in order to stay alive. We are asking for a miracle. A huge miracle. We ask you to pray and fast for him at this time of need. If he does not show any improvement by tomorrow around noon, it is likely that Parker will pass on. We are trying to stay optimistic, but it is a grim situation. It is becoming a very real situation that tomorrow, Parker will pass from this life onto the next.
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We are sending all of our love and prayers to Parker! We know his life is in the Lord's hands.
ReplyDeleteSo many people here sending prayers your family's way Madison!
ReplyDeletePraying so hard for your family and your brother. I put his name on the prayer roll tonight. Will continue to pray.
DeleteI don't know Parker or your family, but this story has touched me. Many of my friends have shared it on facebook and it's spreading. My thoughts and prayers are with you, your family and Parker at this time. <3
ReplyDeleteMadison, that must have been very difficult to write... we so appreciate you keeping us up to date. We pray constantly for Parker and pray that you and your mom can be sustained during the night. We pray for your family at home and their safe travels.
ReplyDeleteSo much love is being sent your way...
Liz Paxman and family
I agree. I appreciate getting the update. I'm just so sorry that his body is being so stressed by so many attackers. It is so sad.
Deletewe will keep on praying hard for Parker and for all of you! Love you tons! -Lorajean and fam
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ReplyDeleteWe will keep your family and Parker in our prayers. I taught him computers at Rock Canyon Elementary and he was in my oldest's (Chase's) math class in 8th grade. Please know that we think very fondly of Parker.
ReplyDeleteAmy Andrus
I wish I had the courage and strength as you do in this situation, Maddy. You are a light in a dark tunnel and I know that no matter what may come to pass, your light will fill this darkness and turn this excruciating trial into an unforgettable experience that will help you - and so many others - with the trials that will most definitely come. Give bear hugs to everyone, and tell Parker that I'm totally rooting him on in this fight! I love you all!
ReplyDeleteI'm heartbroken for all of you, Madison. Please give your parents and the rest of your family my love. Thad is so upset about all of this--we all are--but we are praying hard and still hoping for the best. Parker has always been such an innocent, sweet boy.
ReplyDeleteDear Parker and Allred Family. You are in our thoughts and prayers tonight. May our Heavenly Father's blessings be with you.
ReplyDeleteMike Bateman and family
Knelt with my daughter in prayer, tears flowing, asking the Lord to be with Parker and your family.
DeleteDelsa Frank
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ReplyDeleteOur heartfelt prayers to Parker and the wonderful Allred family.
ReplyDeleteThe Belardi Family
We Love you All..continue prayers. Madison, thank you for keeping us updated. Tell your mom and dad I love them.
ReplyDeleteTim & Jayme
and Kids
We hope you feel close to Parker at this fragile time. We add our heartfelt and sincere prayers. Much love to all of you.
ReplyDeleteThe Reneer Family
My heart is breaking for you all. What a terrible thing. I also have a 16 year old brother and I keep imagining how I would feel if his life was in such a precarious situation. I am praying with all of my heart that tomorrow will bring good news.
ReplyDeleteAll our prayers are with you.
ReplyDeleteLove, The Glasgow Family
We are praying for a miracle but God has a plan for all of us and we dont know when or how we will be called back home. Knowing that we will see them again and that they are in a much better place is what has brought me piece as I have lost loved ones. We have said many prayers today for Parker and your sweet family. Please give Kristen my love, as I know as a Mother how difficult this must be for her...and for all of you, but especially the one that brought Parker into this world. I know she has raised all of you well and you are so strong. We love you guys.
ReplyDeleteOur love and prayers continue. I talked to Kathy Berris today and she asked me to send love to your family. You are touching hearts with your faith.
ReplyDeleteMaddy, Sterling, Hailey, Aunt Kristen, and Uncle Layne I am amazed at the outpouring of love from friends, family, and even complete strangers. It is a testament to what a stalwart, good, and loving young man Parker has been throughout his life. Parker is blessing and touching lives even in this state...YOU are blessing and touching lives in your state. I pray that our loving Father will allow Parker's mission to continue on this earth, though I can imagine how much good he would also do on the other side. I know that miracles can be wrought as I was reminded last night when I read Mosiah 3:5-6, and I hope that it is the Lord's will to heal him. We are with you in spirit; We hope that angels are attending you at this excruciating time. All our Love
ReplyDeleteDear Allred Family,
ReplyDeleteYou can be so proud of Parker and the life he led. No regrets in a life well lived. I am so glad that he was such a valiant young man. He will be greatly missed. I am grateful for the knowledge that he lives on, reunited with friends and family that have gone on before us. He will do so much good and continue to learn and grow. I am so grateful that our Savior broke the bands of death. As my 90-year old father said, "Life goes SO fast!" You will see him again soon. I hope we will all live lives worthy of praise, as Parker did, when we are called back home to the Father of us all. It has been an honor to know Parker Allred. We will always remember him and look forward to seeing him again.
Love Always,
Cindy Peatross
Madison and Allred Family,
ReplyDeleteI mourn with you and my thoughts and prayers continue in your behalf.
I add my love to that of many others and most especially to that of the Savior. May it surround you and this time.
Love,
Anne Crosland
All our love.
ReplyDeleteThe Glasgows
Dear Allred Family,
ReplyDeleteWe pray that the Lord will comfort your family during this difficult time. Parker was a special young man and we all share in your loss.
Todd McKee and Family
Allreds,
ReplyDeleteI did not know the rest of your family but I am so grateful I had some time to get to know Parker. He was so happy and friendly. I am glad he decided to join the swim team and bring us all laughter. He is a special kid. You are in my family's prayers and I echo the words of the others and hope you feel the loving comfort of our Heavenly Father.
MaShay Hermann
I don't know your family but my heart is breaking for you. Please know that people everywhere are praying for your family. I'm so sorry for your trial! I am so thankful for the awesome Plan of Happiness. You will be together again.
ReplyDeleteDear Allred family,
ReplyDeleteWords seem so hollow at time like this but I just feel a need to reach out in a small way. I and Parker's other football brothers love him dearly. He is such a fine young man. As his d-line coach, I worked with him every day and can say that I NEVER once saw him do anything disappointing. He worked hard, played fair, kept his language clean, supported his teammates, and just quietly went about doing his job on the team. He was a great player and did everything I asked without complaint. More importantly, he behaved in a way that his family would be proud. I am so very sad this morning. As a bishop, I have been involved in situations similar to this and can promise you that your pain will ease as time heals. There will always be an empty spot where Parker would be, but he is with family that have preceded him in death. Please let me know if there is anything I or the Timpview football program can do for you. Love, Coach Bryan Hopkins
Our thoughts and prayers are with your family. May the Lord bless and strengthen you. We hope the best for Parker.
ReplyDelete~The Wade Family
Yes Parker and your family are in our hearts and prayer...You might not remember me but you remember my mom Marilyn Bird. Know you guys are loved by many people.
ReplyDeleteJulene (Bird) Stoianowski
My son attends Timpview and our hearts are breaking for your family right now. May our Heavenly Father bless and comfort you. Please know that so many people want to do whatever they can to help, in any way they can. Let those around you who love and support you, serve you. It will bless your family and them, and allow your burdens to be lessened even a little bit.
ReplyDeleteThe Mendivil Family
Ever since I found out about this I have been praying non-stop for Parker and you guys. It breaks my heart that this is happening but I know that God is completely aware of the situation and exactly what is going on in his body. He knows what needs to happen in order to help Parker perform his part in his wonderful kingdom. I know you guys know this, and I know that you are relying on the Lord heavily during this trial. He loves you so much, as does Jesus. I love you too. Prayers are with you to help carry you and comfort you.
ReplyDeleteBree Ammons
I do not know Parker or your family, but I do go to Timpview, so this morning when I heard about what had happened I felt so... I can't even put it into words. I could not stop crying after I read the blog posts and I hope you know that we all send our love. Your family will be in my prayers. At least with the restored Gospel, we can know that you will see him again, and that he and our Heavenly Father are watching over you all.
ReplyDeleteNicholette Campbell
Madison,
ReplyDeleteI received word this morning that Parker passed and I wanted you and your family to know how very sad and sorry my family was to hear the news. Parker was a great young man and I enjoyed teaching him and interacting with him. Your family will continue to be in our prayers.
Jeremy Stevenson
Sterling,
ReplyDeleteOur thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family. We did not know your brother, but as we have had you in our home frequently we imagine that he was alot like you in many ways; an outstanding young man. We want you to know that if there is anything that we can do for you or your family please let us know.
Love,
The Freeman Family, (Stan, Michelle, Ashely, Adam, & Audriana)
Dear Allred Family,
ReplyDeleteWe are so sorry to hear about your loss. Please know that you are in our hearts, thoughts and prayers. Our fast will be dedicated to you in hopes that you will be comforted and that peace may fill your hearts. My husband and son had the privilege of knowing Parker and spoke nothing but great things about him.
God be with you, always.
The Arshad Family
I don't know Parker but I feel as if I've met him or taught him at Timpview and know he's special and feel that your family is filled with love one toward another and this love is what Parker takes with him to carry on his work. Love and prayers to you and gratefulness for Madison's courage and maturity in delivering the news to us. I learned a lot from your family. God is with you, families are forever.
ReplyDeleteI don't know Parker or your family, but he sounds like an absolutely amazing young guy. I'm so sorry for your loss and you are in my prayers.
ReplyDeleteWe are so saddened to hear of Parker's passing. Vincent and Lydia both have such wonderful memories of the time spent playing with Parker and Sterling after school. Our most heartfelt condolences to you all. You are all in our thoughts and prayers.
ReplyDeleteJim, Lynelle, Bethany, Lydia and Vincent Belardi
Our condolences as well. He's in a place of peace and rest now. There's no sadness there. He left this life having done good, and will continue to do much in the next life. Our prayers continue to be with your family.
ReplyDeleteI don't know your sweet Parker, but our prayers are with your family. We are so sorry for you loss.
ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry for your tremendous loss. May the Lord be with your family and friends.
ReplyDeleteMy heart aches with you as I recently heard that he had passed. I don't know if you remember, but I used to be Sister Baker when your family lived in the Fair Oaks 2 ward in California. I have some great memories and pictures with your family at different activities. I am so sorry to hear about Parker! I have been holding my kids a little closer as I have been reading through your posts. I hope your family knows how many people are praying and thinking of your family!
ReplyDeleteMuch Love,
Jill (Baker) Cluff
Hey it's stephanie johnson (arter). just crying as I write this, and I'm so sorry that you guys are going through this. Parker has moved on ahead, so it's a very bittersweet feeling. The scriptures are such a comfort, because Jesus Himself said, "Blessed are they who mourn, for they shall be comforted." I'm praying so hard for you guys, that you will be comforted, and be at peace. i'm so sorry. Sending my love, and my prayers and tears.
ReplyDeleteAlthough I didn't know Parker personally, he made a great impression on me at a stake service project down at 7-peaks a few years ago. While most of the young men and women were tired and felt like they were finished, he was working hard without complaining. I thought at that time what an amazing young man, his goodness will live on. I am so sorry for your family, to lose a brother, a son at such a young age is hard to understand, but you know he is in good hands and continuing his service projects on the other side. Our thoughts and prayers are with your family.
ReplyDeleteKaren Murray